Craft Projects

Last night I spent hours on the phone comforting a distraught friend.  Ms. Distraught has been dating a man for a few months.  The relationship started out very slow, Ms. D comes from a very conservative background.  The relationship is still young, in the fact that they have not had sex but do fool around on the couch a lot.  However the drama started last night when to two of them were out he told her that she should change her hair.  I was shocked.  She has long, thick dark beautiful hair, and I have always been under the impression that men like long hair.  Perhaps I am wrong.  Thought out the rest of the evening he kept fixing her appearance, straightening her sweater and her necklace, as if to say you’re a mess let me help you out.  The finally kicker was when he offered (unsolicited) to help her pick out her clothes, saying “I have a wonderful sense of style”.  Which is true, I have met the man.  Ms. D replied that she wasn’t a craft project that needed to be changed, and I fully agree with her.  I also told her she should seriously reconsider dating a man that is so highly critical of her appearance so early in the relationship.  I am under the impression that women are always thinking of ways to change the men in their lives and not the other way around.  Is this guy way out in left field or do men look for a craft project when looking for love?

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